Setting Healthy Boundaries

By Althea Aubrey, RN, BSN
Director, Medical-Surgical Nursing, Methodist Dallas Medical Center

Life’s exciting when you’re a new graduate nurse. The possibilities are limitless and your zest for your career and your patients is boundless. Sometimes, when I’m working with new nurses, it is a challenge to nurture their positive spirit and instill the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Grasping the concept of healthy boundaries at the beginning of a career can pay off when clinicians hit the occasional bumps in the road.

I first experienced the need for healthy boundaries early in my career when I was an oncology nurse. After six years of caring for cancer patients, I reached the point where I knew I couldn’t do it forever. John was a leukemia patient for whom I cared during his hospitalization until he died. About six weeks later, my supervisor asked me how I was doing. “Fine,” I told her. But, being the wise, veteran nurse she was, she asked me stop by her office after my shift was over.

“Al,” she said, “your light is not shining anymore.” I burst into tears. I knew I was grieving for John. Thanks to her support and that of the hospital chaplain, I was able to process what I was feeling, see why I became a nurse in the first place, and understand how I could continue my career.

We all carry invisible buckets which hold feelings. Every patient we have puts a little into our buckets. Those feelings can be good and not so good. When we lose a patient, that emotion goes into the bucket as well. If we don’t have a good work/life balance, the bucket will overflow at the most inopportune moment.

Setting healthy boundaries not only establishes a barrier against built-up stress which ultimately leads to burn out, it also provides an appropriate emotional attachment between the nurse and his or her patients.

Here are four tips I’ve found useful in setting healthy boundaries for myself.

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